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Cheek To Cheek

This blog was written by Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)

This past week I heard someone mention, “Turning the Other Cheek”. And I thought….what does that mean actually? Does it mean that if someone hurts you, it should be okay with you and that you should walk right back up to the person and allow them to hurt you again? Seriously?


How to Support a Friend or Loved One Who Has Been Sexually Abused

By Vanessa Marin, NY Times

It’s been a particularly difficult few months for sexual abuse survivors. If you know someone who’s been abused, here are some tips to best support them and their recovery.


New Survivor Blog — StandUpSpeakUp.org

A blog by Tim Lennon, President of the Board Directors

Dear Friends,

I started a blog. In the last ten years of advocacy and activism with the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests, SNAP,  I corresponded, talked, and met with thousands of survivors and supporters. This advocacy generated a large amount of information, research, analysis. 

As a result, I wrote repeatedly wrote similar responses to common questions hundreds of times. I compiled the essays, guidance, and analyses I had written and made them available as a collection on my blog, StandupSpeakup.org. Now it is open to all. 

I included a significant amount of survivor support information, resources for survivors, analysis, action steps, and a description of my history of sexual abuse. Follow my steps to achieve justice: pictures, documents, newspapers, and other media responses. 


Someone Else’s Problem

This blog was written by Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)

This past week, I learned that a priest I knew as a child….one that may have come to my house for dinner….was on the credibly accused list. My mother worked for the diocese for about twelve years and so in addition to having a seminary in back of my house, and growing up with the caretaker’s children, these priests and nuns and seminarians would often be in our living room and in our pool.


A Memorial Letter to a Friend, Mike Drabik

The below letter was written by Claudia Vercellotti, longtime SNAP leader in Toledo, OH and friend to Mike Drabik. 

Mike,
I  just learned of your unexpected  passing. I’m crushed. You were always kind to me as a SNAP leader. I deeply appreciated your unwavering support that kids should not be sexually abused nor the crimes against them covered up within the Catholic Church. 

Whatever Gets You Through the Night

This blog was written by Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)

Last week, I read something another survivor posted on Facebook. It was truly sad. This person was searching for answers. Why me? What have I done? I have always been good and people have been horrible and have hurt me. Why does God allow this? What is wrong with Him anyway?


The Times Are They A Changing?

This blog was written by Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)

I got an email tonight from someone who sent me a link to what appears to be a new policy going into effect from the Roman Catholic Church released to the public via the Diocese of Buffalo. This new policy has to do with handling accusations of abuse of adults by clergy. I have included the entire link at the bottom, but to give you an idea of what it says, here is one of the leading sentences:


Standing in Solidarity with People of Color Following Recent Events

Shortly after I first started working at SNAP, Barbara Blaine – SNAP’s founder and my boss at the time – went on a business trip to Washington D.C. When she returned, she brought along souvenirs for her staff from the MLK Memorial. For me, she had brought a magnet – still on my fridge today – with Dr. King posed in relief alongside one of his famous quotes; “injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”


Teach Your Children

This blog was written by Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)

We know that children are usually abused by their parents or by authority figures, including priests. We know that sometimes this abuse is sexual in nature. We know that perpetrators target those who are most vulnerable or easier to manipulate or are going through an emotional crisis or in need of comfort and support. And we know the damage that this abuse does to someone for the rest of their life.

But is there still more to learn? And does sexual abuse in childhood make a person more vulnerable to sexual predators in adulthood?


He Ain’t Heavy…

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Last week, people logged in from ten countries. I hope you are finding this blog helpful and/or entertaining and insightful.


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