The Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests

SNAP Support Group Meeting Rules

  • Everything said in the group is confidential.

  • Please do not share with anyone the names or stories you learn in this room.

  • We share feelings and experiences just as they are.  There are no right or wrong statements. We make no judgments about anyone or anything.

  • Each person knows what is best for her or himself, and therefore carries the primary responsibility for her or his well-being during the meeting.  If at any time persons need to leave or take a break for any reason, they are free to do so.

  • Everyone’s presence is appreciated and can be a source of healing for others.  No one is required to speak during the meeting.  Listening is a gift, too.

  • When speaking, use “I” statements, rather than “we,” “you,” or “they.”

  • Avoid individual problem solving.  Individuals can learn from one another’s experiences to solve their own problems.

  • When a person speaks, the others should listen actively, with the goal of relating the speaker’s experiences to their own.  Only one person should be speaking at any given time.  PLEASE, NO INTERRUPTIONS.

  • Giving or asking for advice is not allowed.  It is empowering and healing for us to gather ideas that can benefit us.  None of us is an expert and no one knows what is best for another.

  • At times there may be silence during the meeting. This provides a moment to reflect on what has been shared. No one needs to feel anxious or responsible to break the silence.

  • The session is divided into two parts.  During the first part, everyone is invited to share his or her experiences and feelings.  There is to be no open discussion during that time.  The second part consists of open discussion where all are invited to talk about what they learned from the previous sharing.

Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests